I equip you and your people to manage the invisible dynamics that deplete you.
Locate contagious anxiety, relieve internal pressure, and dissolve stuck patterns so you can thrive in the midst of it all.
Power tip 1: These dynamics also infect your awareness of God.
Power tip 2: Expect a lot of laughter as we engage these skills. This is serious work, but playfulness is an emotional health multiplier.
What the kids are saying:
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Chip and Jo Gaines
Magnolia, Fixer Upper
Steve's time with our Magnolia staff was WONDERFUL. He helped put words to the anxiety that so many people feel both on a personal and professional level. Since his visit, we've been able to see the practical utilization of what Steve taught, which has been invaluable. We highly recommend!
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Rich Villodas
Pastor. Author: The Deeply Formed Life.
With profound depth of insight, humor, and empathy, Steve is a trusted guide for those looking to lead as a “calm presence” in the world. I highly recommend him for your personal life and organization.
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Christine Caine
Speaker, Author, Founder of A21
We are SO GRATEFUL for Steve. His work with our global team and me personally, is phenomenal. Our team voted Steve 'the best thing that happened in our organization this year.' He's helped us so much.
The 6 Results:
Locate the main anxiety generating people, put the anxiety back where it belongs. Help everyone take responsibility.
Break long standing habits and patterns that wear everyone down.
Manage your own false needs, triggers and inner critic that cost you too much.
Train your body to believe what your head believes and relax into God’s presence.
Deep connection and presence in the most broken and intense situations.
Cultivate life giving habits, increase your laughter and gratitude quotient, get your vocational joy back.
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Capable Life
Tools that are spiritual, clinical and practical.
My private community where I guide you through skills and practices. My coaches and I host Zoom meetings, courses, discussion, masterclasses and much more. We open to new members in January 2026. Click below to get on the waitlist
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Podcast
Fresh conversations and skills to help you relax into God’s presence and improve your relational health. Listen to guests like Beth Moore, Henry Cloud and 200+ others. Subscribe wherever you get your pods or check out our Youtube channel below.
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TEG
The book that revolutionizes your faith by helping you mind the gap between your beliefs and experience. Unearth deep seated assumptions and stuck patterns, change the way you approach the Bible and yourself. Click below for church wide sermon series and group study resources.
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MLA
The book that started it all! Get relief by diffusing dynamics under the surface in you and your people. Detangle what is in you vs what is coming at you from others. Break predictable patterns, stop attempted solutions. Required reading in over 20 universities and seminaries.
“The differentiated self is a connected presence.
Curious. Non Reactive.
Keeping anxiety from spreading to others,
sifting assumptions and false expectations.
Connecting to self, others and God.
This is difficult and life giving work.”
My speciality: four dynamics that infect all relationships:
Reactivity. (The only form of anxiety that is contagious.)
Assumptions. (The fastest way to disconnection.)
Predictable Patterns. (You run into yourself again and again or you are weary of the same dance with that other person.)
Attempted Solutions. (Your best effort to fix it keeps it stuck or makes it worse.)
I help you notice, name, and diffuse them in you and your relationships.
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